Self-love and self-care

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Because how can we honestly expect others to show us love and care if we can’t even do that for ourselves?

Yes, exactly. This is why you need self-love and self-care in your life.

 

 

Every single Thursday of every single week, I am called, like clockwork, to the school counsellor’s office. That woman… Oh god. That applies to most counsellors though, I suppose. They want (and expect!) you to practically pour your heart out to them. (And oh, suppose you had something you didn’t want your parents to hear? Refrain from telling the counsellor). There’s experience behind those words. Just don’t.

Anyway, back to the topic. I may have gotten a little sidetracked.

My counsellor in particular seems to love talking about Self-love and self-care. Favourite topic, I suppose. So, what is it?

Self-care: Taking time out to care for yourself in whichever way works best for you, relaxing, and just allowing yourself some time out. Just like we spend time with others, we need to spend time on ourselves, and us solely. This is NOT being selfish. Even just to properly function, we need our time. This can be as simple as reading a book or going for a walk. 

Self-love: I’d like to think of this as giving back, and showing ourselves the same love and care that we’d show to others. Because we deserve it too! Some good ways to do this are to stop negative engaging in negative and unfulfilling behaviours, like drinking and drugs. Big no-no. 

People- pleasing. There’s another big one. It’s a simple fact that no matter how much we do for others, not everybody is going to be 100% satisfied. There’s no winning. Sometimes we just have to learn that it’s okay if we don’t have the approval of everybody. 

Last of all, have high standards and don’t lower them for anybody. Very simple, yet very, VERY important. Self respect is a must because it ensures that you settle for no less than you deserve. If you lower your expectations for others constantly, you are lowering your self-worth and giving out the message that it’s okay. Think of your standards as your armour in a battle. Without them, you WILL get hurt. Some things just aren’t worth investing in. Whether that be with time, money or energy.

Okay, I’ll stop ranting (‘: Hopefully you’ve gotten something out of that though!

-Maryam

 

Scars To Your Beautiful- Lyrics by Alessia Cara

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“Scars To Your Beautiful”

She just wants to be beautiful
She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits,
She craves attention, she praises an image,
She prays to be sculpted by the sculptor
Oh she don’t see the light that’s shining
Deeper than the eyes can find it
Maybe we have made her blind
So she tries to cover up her pain, and cut her woes away
‘Cause covergirls don’t cry after their face is made

But there’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark
You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are
And you don’t have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful
Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh
And you don’t have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful

She has dreams to be an envy, so she’s starving
You know, “Covergirls eat nothing.”
She says, “Beauty is pain and there’s beauty in everything.”
“What’s a little bit of hunger?”
“I could go a little while longer,” she fades away
She don’t see her perfect, she don’t understand she’s worth it
Or that beauty goes deeper than the surface
Ah oh, ah ah oh,
So to all the girls that’s hurting
Let me be your mirror, help you see a little bit clearer
The light that shines within

There’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark
You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are
And you don’t have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful
Oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
And you don’t have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful

No better you than the you that you are
(no better you than the you that you are)
No better life than the life we’re living
(no better life than the life we’re living)
No better time for your shine, you’re a star
(no better time for your shine, you’re a star)
Oh, you’re beautiful, oh, you’re beautiful

There’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark
You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are
And you don’t have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful
Whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
And you don’t have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful

20 things you probably didn’t know about me…

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Fact 1- My name is Maryam. (No, you don’t need to know my last name xD)

Fact 2- I’m twelve, soon to be thirteen in December.

Fact 3- My strength is English. This meaning that I’m generally good at all strands of that topic. Think grammar, punctuation, reading, etc. You name it!

Fact 4- When I was eight, I was said to have an average reading age of a sixteen-year-old. I wonder how much that number has gone up?

Fact 5- I started this blog last year, around May. It was originally called mspjordynjonesfashion.wordpress.com, and was a gaming blog.

Fact 6- I am going to England in December, and I will be blogging about my experiences over the five weeks I’m away.

Fact 7- I come from a mixed family! My father is Pakistani, and my mother is Maltese.

Fact 8- One day, I hope to visit Los Angeles, as well as Italy and France.

Fact 9- Up until year two, I attended a public school. From then onwards, I’ve only been to private schools.

Fact 10- My favourite colour? Hmm, that’s tricky. In all honestly, I like most colours (‘:

Fact 11- I’m 5’2. Okay, okay. I know what you’re thinking.

*Snigger* She’s so short. My whole family is short. Compared to them, I’m tall. And hey, I’ll get taller xD

Fact 12- If I could give an award to anyone for best music video, It’d have to be Alessia Cara for ‘Scars to your beautiful’. If you haven’t already watched the song, or don’t know who Alessia is, here’s an overview.  She’s a Canadian singer and songwriter. She was born July 11th, 1996, and she’s 20. What I like best about her music is that she includes themes relating to real life issues, which not many singers nowadays do. It may be tempting to write about more of the ‘fun’ sort of topics, but is that what we really need to hear? And that, my friends, is why she’s definitely a role model for me (:

Fact 13- I don’t like chips of any sort.

Fact 14- People often describe me as a deep thinker.

Fact 15- I have snapchat! x Feel free to add me on sassnswag.

Fact 16- I first heard the song ‘Fireflies’ by Owl City when I was six. I still like that song.

Fact 17- I’m born on the same day as Britney Spears.

Fact 18- I am a Sagittarius.

Fact 19- I have a little brother called Haider, who’s six, but acts older.. sometimes.

Fact 20- I love horror! Movies, books, everything scary.