All relationships look different.
Some may look like this: 👫
Others more like this: 👭 👬
All relationships are healthy, but what happens when they aren’t?
This is what I’m going to discuss today. Just the other day, I realised that I needed to take action within my own relationships, and use some of the advice I give.. Nobody likes a hypocrite. So here’s the deal: I was in a happy, fulfilling relationship, but where did it go wrong? My boyfriend had been ghosting (seemingly disappearing without a trace from all social media!) me. It was frustrating. A long, two week ordeal. No good for anybody. I messaged and messaged. First it was to say I missed him, to ask where he was, to ask if he happened to be dead, because heck, it felt like it, and then.. nothing. No reply. He wasn’t coming back. This was probably his way of effectively avoiding confrontation and not having to bother with a breakup. Maybe that’s what bothered me the most. The fact that he showed so little respect and decided that I wasn’t important enough to even warrant an explanation.
I realised, I had a tendency to fall for the wrong people and while I generally played the right cards, I continually made small, costly mistakes.
As a generally rule, avoid the following like the plague:
1. The ‘small minded, egotistical’ type
Want to make some decent conversation? I think not. Want to be with someone who cares about something other than themselves? Good luck. These kind of people take vanity and selfishness to a whole new level.
2. The kind who believe too much in themselves, and a bit too little in you.
As they say, confidence is sexy- but being a cocky bastard? No thanks. You can try, but that is one hell of an unsustainable relationship. No respect involved, and forget about feeling good within yourself.
3. The cheaters
The cheaters. This one is obvious. Once a cheat, always a cheater. Don’t think you’re the only one!
4. The flighty type
Maybe they say you’re different, and they’ll never leave you, but how sure are you? Forever is just a word people say when it suits them. Unless you get lucky, that is.
5. The kind that are ‘too’ open 😶
Sexually open. Politically open. Religiously open. Racially open. These are the kind of people who don’t have a stop button- or a filter. This always spells trouble, have no doubt. T-R-O-U-B-L-E.
6. The kind who forgot to learn about equality when they were in school.
No, you’re not an equal couple. God forbid you’re above. No, you’re below.. Waaaay below. Down with the dogs honey.
Oh, what’s that? Yes, like Donald Trump.
7. The kind who do shocking things.. 😶
Like steak money from a charity started to raise funds for terminally ill kids.
Shout out to Donald Trump.
The nerve. OH, the nerve.
8. The kind that don’t have any shits to give
Think you’re in the perfect relationship? If your significant other still cares years (or months.. or days) down the track, you’re good to go.
9. The ones who want you for your ‘parts’ 👀
Well, excuuuuuuse me 😾
You are not cuts of meat in a butcher shop. Don’t let anybody treat you like you are.
10. The ones who care but don’t really care
They hide behind a clever front, but once you’ve seen their true colours, ladies, you show them the door.