A little while back I was nominated for the Liebster Award by Kimberly over at Free Perspectives. She’s a wonderful lil potato blogger and honestly deserves all the recognition in the world. So, a big thank you to her!
I can’t wait to answer your questions, Kim! 🙂
-Just a quick note, before we get into this post, there are mentions of some sensitive topics regarding mental health. Take care xx
rules: + acknowledge the blogger that gave you an award. + answer 11 questions that the blogger gives you. + Give eleven random facts about yourself. + Nominate eleven blogs and notify them. + Give them eleven questions to answer.
+ how many countries have you travelled to?
I’ve been overseas a few time in my life, but most when I was quite little. I’ve been to three countries- Pakistan, Dubai and England.
+ favourite memory?
My favourite memories are probably from my trip to England at the end of 2016. I wasn’t big on taking photos at that time so I don’t really have pictures to remember England by, which is why I probably remember it so vividly in my head. To this day it comes back to me so easily. I remember walking out the front door, being handed roses at the airport, sitting in front of the heater, meeting people. It feels like a long time ago, but also like it was just yesterday. That trip was so I could take a holiday, but also because I wasn’t doing all that well in terms of my mental health. Even during the three weeks I spent there, I remember doing things I regret. The food I turned down, specifically. All the hours spent controlling my calories and exercising.. the times I weighed myself. There was a bit of ugliness there, but that trip is still one of the best things that ever happened to me.
+ Who’s your favourite author and why?
My all time favourite author would have to be Rupi Kaur- I own both of her poetry books. Her words never fail to sooth my ragged edges and remind me just how human I am.
+ What’s your favourite way to wind down after a long day?
After a long day, I love to curl up in bed or on the sofa with fluffy blankets, a warm cup of tea, my laptop (Netflix! ooh, and Pinterest) as well as a hearty meal, and just be. Sometimes I’ll catch up with a friend or read some of the latest Frankie mag issue xx
+ What affirmation do you start each day by?
Off late, I’ve been drawn to affirmations focusing on recognition and acceptance of feelings without my passing judgement, or letting them affect me. Basically like the clouds in the sky- I see them, but they pass me by. I do not dwell on things.
+ Last book/ movie you read/ watched?
The last movie I watched was Hush, a horror movie about a blind woman who needs to defend herself from a masked intruder.
+ Do you have a nickname? If so, what is it and is there a meaning behind it?
Yes, I do have a nickname!
My name is Maryam, so my friends call me Mary, or Mare, for short. There isn’t really a meaning behind it, but I think it’s cute.
+ What stigma does society need to get over?
Personally, I feel that society needs to stop surrounding suicide attempts and survivors with stigma. It really angers me that suicide is labelled as selfish, and there’s so much anger being directed at people who make attempts to take their own life. My painful secret is that I am an attempt survivor myself. I’ve had lots of mixed reactions to what I did- anger, sadness, disbelief. Reactions where people didn’t know what to say. All of that is okay, and perfectly valid, but what a lot of people don’t know is that many times, attempts like mine stem from having been forced to take on loads so heavy that they were crushing. Maybe we aren’t weak or selfish, but we just feel a lot that even we ourselves can’t understand. We may feel like there’s no way out of our pain and that our leaving is doing you a favour. But what I know for sure is this: we are deserving of your love and understanding, and we can get better with the right care. I don’t know if this battle is quite over, but I am so much stronger than I used to be. I had no idea I’d be speaking out about something so raw and real, but here I am.
+ What are the top three things on your bucket list?
Travel, travel and more travel! I’d really like to visit places like Greece and Malta. I also want to meet Noor Unnahar- she’s a Youtuber originally from Pakistan. She writes beautiful poetry and journals wonderfully. She even has a book, “yesterday I was the moon.”
+ What language would you like to be fluent in?
I’m actually not sure. When I’m with family, I’d rather like to be fluent in Urdu though so I can have conversations with them in a language other than English!
+ Five things you love most about yourself.
I love that I’m a deep thinker and can have conversations with almost anyone, irrespective of things like age. I love how powerful I find words, and how beautifully they work with me. I love my style and the way I carry myself with grace. I love the way I relate to the people around me.
11 facts about me:
+ I’m 5’5.
+ My favourite colours are aqua, rose gold and marigold.
+ I love dolphins and well, all animals!
+ My style is minimalistic chic.
+ I often wear mixed metals. Rose gold earrings, silver rings, beige shoes with gold buckles. It matches better than you’d think!
+ My favourite magazine is Frankie.
+ I often take photos of pretty sunrises and sunsets.
+ I’m a night owl.
+ On the rare times I drink soft drink, I only have coke.
+ I love rainy days. They’re really cosy!
+ Music that other people call sad is my favourite type. It helps me think!
+ I want to write a second book one day. Not a fiction story this time, but a poetry collection.
As for nominations, I don’t want to be constantly asking the same people over and over, so I won’t be listing eleven people, but there a few bloggers I’ve come across recently that I’d love to ask, and also a few that I haven’t nominated recently xx
Michelle @ aestheticallydreaming
Kathryn @ adistantdiary
Tori @ justthebeginning
And that’s it!
+ If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
+ What does a normal daily routine for a work/school week look like for you?
+ What are some of your hobbies?
+ Have you ever climbed a tree?
+ What’s a pet peeve of yours?
+ What’s your strongest skill?
+ Are you a late or early sort of person?
+ What takes up too much of your time?
+ What are some small things that make your day better?
+ Give one interesting fact about yourself.
+ What do you like most about society?
Wow, I NEVER write posts as long as this. I guess there’s a first time for everything. Thank you for reading lovelies, and have a fantastic day!