Once you realise this, you will be free of their judgement. It was never about you.
There is somebody I’ve been angry at for a while now. A person I was disappointed in, hurt by- a person I wrongly believed I could change.
As I woke up this morning, It occurred to me that more than anything, this person needed my prayers. I could continue to harbour my negative feelings and let that be a reflection of me and my state of being or I could let go. My forgiveness towards you is for me. I deserve that much- to be free of you.
I wanted to find a way to see this situation in a more mature light and this is what I’ve come to. How many of us are so focused on ourselves that we spare little thought to what others are doing on a daily basis? I’d say the great majority. To think that somebody else insists on dedicating so much time and energy into hating me is plain sad.
When other people treat us badly, they are shining a light on what is unhealed in them and reflecting onto us their own brokenness. It’s like a mirror. I stopped reacting when I realised that what had gone down had very little to do with me or who I am. If I am truly loved and cared for, why should one lone opinion bother me?
That’s what I realised today, when I felt this heavy weight lift. I am happy and that happiness does not depend on you. You sneered and pulled faces at me today but all I felt was gratitude. You’ve also showed me how good the people around me can be. I am thankful I am not bitter and hateful like you.
I release myself from the trap of hating you for what you did to me. If all else fails, there’s karma.