Everybody’s prime is different

Hello lovelies!


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Today’s post is a more on the thoughtful side. It’s something I’ve been thinking about lately so I figured I’d share some of those musings with you all.

There seems to be this whole idea surrounding age and opportunity. Too many people believe in the idea of a prime- of something or someone being at its best. It just seems to have a very boxy, limiting definition, although that could be due to the meaning we attach to it.

I’m almost sixteen and while I’d like to be in my prime, I don’t feel I’m there yet. Each person is different and due to that, very little about us is comparative. There is no set age bracket for being in your prime. At this point in time, I feel my potential is being limited. I don’t feel particularly useful or happy with where I’m at and that’s largely because I lack control of my situation. It’s uncomfortable to feel but I want to move beyond it. This is the only way. Beyond that, I don’t feel all that well anymore. It’s been hard to come to terms with the fact that I’m not doing as well as I used to. When you have such a clear picture of who you want to become and things don’t go to plan, you start to feel like you’ve fallen off track. There are days I wonder if being driven and passionate about a better future is enough. Ultimately, all will be revealed with time.

The golden age of your life, your evolutionary prime, is considered to be between the ages of eighteen and thirty five. Old age is believed to set in twenty five years later, at sixty. Really though, who is anybody else to tell you when you’ll thrive? That’s hard enough to work out for ourselves!

We need to release the pressure we put on ourselves and others to have achievements by a certain point. There really is no timeline for making an impact and doing something meaningful. There are recent school graduates with businesses of their own. There are couples who got married in their older age. There are children who have taught me things I couldn’t work out for myself.

If we only learned to look beyond people’s outward appearance and dispel our perceptions of what they are capable of, we would realise that little is impossible.



12 thoughts on “Everybody’s prime is different

  1. I love this! You’ve reminded me that it’s never too late to do what I want to do and that despite the barriers I may face they will hopefully be knocked down one day and when that happens there is still time to follow dreams as well as gradually work towards them now ✨ I don’t need to force other people’s perceptions of what I should achieve in a certain amount of time on myself. I will achieve my goals at my own pace and not stress over the age at which they “must” be done. Thank you for sharing this!! Also I like the art with your name in at the end of the post signing off, it’s very pretty ❤️


    1. Oh, thank you so much for your lovely comment Elsie. I’m really glad you were able to take something away from this post!

      We’re all works in progress and go through so many different states of being.. I sometimes think of myself as maryam 2.0- like I’ve been upgraded and am now even more myself. It’s a definite journey but with so many different points of discovery. Learning about ourselves is never dull!

      Sending you much love and light. Thank you for your support!

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  2. I absolutely love this blog post Maryam! 🙂
    I couldn’t agree more – yes, prime isn’t a number or a set age.
    We all bloom in our own time, which reminds me of one of my favourite quotes “nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished” – Lao Tzu. Growth is a beautiful process and often happens when you least expect it, in mind, body and soul.
    Daisy xox

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  3. I had no idea you were 15 wow haha! You learn something new. Really liked this post, felt like I was reading one of my own !! I always think about this topic and you wrote so wonderfully about it, I agree with everything you said .xx


  4. Such a amazing post Maryam!🥰💚 I fully agree with everything you’re saying. I also feel like I’m off track at the moment, but you know? It’s okay. I’ll get back on track as long as I try to find positivity in where I am right now. You’re 15? Are you born 2003?

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    1. Oh, thank you Tuva! You’re so kind. I’m glad you were able to take something away from the post x

      I feel like at some point or another we all fall into that dreaded rut, but getting back to ourselves is fully possible too!

      I was born in December, 2003.. right at the end of the year, haha! 16 next Monday 😊

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