Debunking My Horoscope: Authentic Sagittarius or not?

My Horoscope:

Sagittarians are always on a quest for knowledge. The last fire sign of the Zodiac, Sagittarians launch their many pursuits like blazing arrows, chasing after adventures that are geographical, intellectual and spiritual in nature. Fuelled by wanderlust, these archers can be found traversing all corners of the world on thrill seeking expeditions.

Sagittarius is a mutable sign, meaning it is associated with adaptability and flexibility. This perfectly reflects the archers deep rooted desire for change. Sagittarians are born to explore and it is critical that these archers have the freedom to roam. Your beliefs, faith and philosophy is central to your world view.

The downside of being a Sagittarius is your tendency to preach and not even to the converted. Moralising can mean that individual people come second to your ideals as you’ll put principles before pals. It’s no surprise that Jupiter, the planet of abundance, spirituality, and growth, governs Sagittarius. With so many journeys under their belt, Sagittarians are excellent storytellers and can light up any room with their exhilarating tales and infectious laughter.

Effortlessly magnetic, they easily attract friends and lovers with their senses of humour. They’re the comedians of the zodiac and infuse all of their conversations with quick wit and no bullshit bluntness. While their bon mots are unmatched, Sagittarians must remember to keep their sharp tongues in check. Though they know a lot, they don’t know everything. If they’re not careful, they can come off as pretentious or arrogant.

Those with the Sagittarius star sign are born anywhere from the twenty first of November to the twenty second of December.

Are optimistic and big dreamers:

I do have a tendency to tunnel think and get really in my head. I’ll mull over the same thoughts continuously until I feel there’s been a sufficient outcome. That’s a means of resolution for me usually. I’m definitely a dreamer though- it’s in my name after all. For the longest time my days have centred around holding onto faith. Meeting my partner who has a terminal illness taught me that life can be worthwhile even in the midst of hardship.

I’ve learnt that it’s okay to look forward to the future, uncertain as it may be. Optimism has proved to be more than a value for us- it’s something we’ve imbedded in our hearts as a tool to overcome. Now more than ever I’m privy to the power of now. This moment in time is a gift- that’s why it’s called the present.

I have always dreamed big and I wholeheartedly believe you should too. Throw caution to the wind and bare your light to the world. Although there is friction, you will overcome. This act of radical embrace is your message of truth, your mark of authenticity. A bold, unabashed and unashamed way of saying that you refuse to settle. This life is yours, this love is yours. Fan your flames enough and your brilliance will extinguish.

Are candid and honest:

Absolutely. I’ve seen a rise in transparency in the social spheres I’m a part of lately. It’s a breath of fresh air and I’m here for the reality check. I have nothing against people sharing the charmed aspects of their life- the platforms we use to share snippets of our days are highlight reels in their most base form. It’s just a matter of going above and beyond, using your privilege to maintain a balance.

Take time offline to show that you value rest as much as you do work and are attuned to your body’s cues. Forgo filters for a day and promote body positivity. Skin texture and inconsistency is normal. Perhaps you could share a relaxed, unproductive day in the life or your best and worst moments of the week.

Being candid for me has meant speaking into existence the stories I’d otherwise bury. Taking away the power and brutality of trauma through conversation, albeit uncomfortable. I’ve openly unpacked the shame behind depression, anorexia, sexual assault, teenage pregnancy, miscarriage and more.

Are witty with a wicked sense of humour:

Quirky humour comes easily to me and I often get told I should be a comedian. Laughter has been transformative through my life. Well and truly the remedy and tonic I’ve needed to return to myself. It’s an outlet for my strangest ponderings and most random questions.

The beauty of laughter is that it’s universal. No matter what corner of the globe you’re on, whether you can understand their native tongue or not, you can always crack a joke, let slip a smile and encourage others to embrace light hearted innocence once more.

Children will always be my biggest inspiration in this way. They don’t need a reason to feel joy. They’ll chase butterflies, run around barefoot and remain totally unaware of the modern social graces we’re so concerned with. Oh, then there’s my laugh. It’s immodest, bellowing and not lady like in the least. What can I say? I’m proud to be funnier than the joke and will always put on home video nights with my snapchat memories.

Are independent and hate being told how to live:

I’m perfectly fine with being given advice and will always be open to the wisdom elders wish to impart my way. However, I tend to get defensive when boundaries are crossed and I feel controlled or condescended. I don’t wish to be one upped, looked down upon or disrespected because of my position. I need autonomy to feel purposeful.

That’s why a good teacher deserves the utmost respect. The best professors I’ve had were sensitive to the power dynamics between them and students, bridging the gaps in a humble and tactful manner. They nurtured without belittling, and, most of all, they refused to give up on us.

They truly believed in our capabilities and wanted to extend the bounds of our knowledge. After all, it’s a mere reflection of their teaching abilities and, ultimately, the beginning of a professional legacy.

Are restless and impatient:

Definitely not. I’ve survived two and a half years and counting of a long distance relationship. If that’s not a testament to the patience I’ve developed, nothing is! I definitely have my days where I focus too much on the eventual outcome and forget that there is beauty in the process though.

I’ll find myself wanting to throw down the towel because I’m afraid that what I’ve worked so hard for won’t come to fruition. Ultimately, I hold tight to self belief and acknowledge just how far I have come. Pushing for what I want has caused ripples and those turned into waves. That determination has served me well and set forth an encouraging momentum.

Had I taken the traditional route and stayed through to my senior years of high school, I wouldn’t have had the head start needed to refocus and formulate a game plan for the long term. I wouldn’t have landed a position or scholarship at my dream design school. Education is a ticket out of most any circumstance and I couldn’t be more grateful for the quality of mine.

I wanted the best for myself and took a leap of faith, choosing a private college over mainstream tafe. I still quake in my shoes a little when I contemplate the figure I’ll have to repay but that’s in good time. An investment into my future that will undoubtedly benefit me tenfold could never be a waste. Moving out of home and renovating a bedroom was another worthwhile decision. A taste of life with increased independence. At times I get decision fatigue but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Can read you like a book and won’t tolerate mucking around:

Yes and no I’d say. I’m definitely more perceptive and in tune with others and myself though. What aided this process was a change in mindset. I started listening to gain a better understanding, not just to respond. How often do you focus entirely on a conversation without beginning to formulate your response the second words leave their mouth? That’s why it’s important to pace yourself and put comprehension over brevity.

I’ve been told that I’m a great listener and bring people a lot of comfort with my advice. I like to think of myself as warm, empathetic and non judgemental. I’m sensitive to small changes in others, especially those close to me. My bias has caused me to ignore warning signs or red flags.

I’ll stick to my comfort zone and let people get away with things I wouldn’t normally because of blind spots. I try not to give the benefit of the doubt where it’s undue though. At the end of the day, I don’t want people stepping on me or thinking I’m a pushover. It’s not even naivety as such. I just want to believe that things are different for me and goodness prevails.

Can’t stand selfish people or sore losers:

This is such a matter of character honestly. I don’t have a lot of patience or understanding for selfish people and sore losers. Two of my pet peeves have to be those who are stingy with money and those who won’t share. Cheapskates like those you see on documentaries. They take turns bathing in the same water, wash the dishes in the bathtub, sit on plastic chairs and own two sets of clothes! No fun. Life is so much more vibrant when there’s give and take. When you have enough to be comfortable and more to pass forward.

Sore losers will never understand the meaning of a team effort. They are threatened by the success of others when, in reality, no man is an island. We all require help and the fruit of our efforts is as much a reflection on how others have built us up and contributed positively to our pursuits as how we’ve turned our lives around. Another person’s achievements are not the absence of our own. We all have our time in the spotlight and there is more than enough room for us to rally around and praise others. We might be in the door, the eve, of our victory while others are already in the room. That’s perfectly fine. Direction is more important than speed. Some people are going nowhere and fast!

Are freedom seeking and hard to pin down:

I am quite freedom seeking- I don’t like being kept on a tight leash. I just want to be able to roam and explore without bounds. I wouldn’t say that I’m hard to pin down as such though. I’m very committed in relationships and don’t find this restrictive. Freedom is said to be the oxygen of the soul. I am no bird and no net ensnares me. To this day, I continue to be inspired by the words of a friend who is no longer in my life. He told me that he is happy with where and who he is because he accepts what he truly wants in all aspects of life.

So often we are guilty of cock blocking what is destined for us, for halting the desired manifestations of our subconscious with self deprecating and defeating dialogue. We will always be our own worst enemies and harshest critics for the simple reason that we know ourselves so intimately. Inside and out. That can cause discomfort when we refuse to own our story and be that main character we so fondly speak of.

Can be ruthless when seeking justice:

If I feel that myself or others have been wronged, I’ll stand up and speak out. I’ve never been the sort to quiet down when the heat gets turned up. The last few years have taught me a lot about trauma, crime, passion, advocacy, fire. So nuanced, so dimensional, so enraging. We’ve seen matters of humanity be politicised, whitewashed, downplayed. How do you turn off the burning desire to make your mark in a hurting world?

Simply put, right is right even if everybody is against it and wrong is wrong even if everybody is for it. Moral is not opinion, it is fact. Justice cannot sleep forever. That’s not to say that I sit around and hold grudges though. I don’t want a heavy heart and forgiveness is a gift to myself. An intentional means of release from all that is binding. The weight of a circumstance doesn’t matter. Hold a cup up long enough and your arm will inevitably start to hurt.

Are creative and extremely curious:

Creative pursuits fuel my soul. It brings me so much joy to express myself through words, art, storytelling, movement, visuals. It’s a non guilty pleasure and I love to indulge this side of my personality. I pride myself on being an eager lifelong learner. Education doesn’t stop when you step foot outside of the classroom. Curiosity is the spark of intellect. A willing, proud and eager confession of ignorance with intention to become more.

We must have an appetite for knowledge, a penchant for questioning. If I’m the smartest person in the room, I’m in the wrong place. Curiosity is the driving force for innovation. What does your curiosity do for you? Does it lead you to instant, rash and silly decisions or does it allow a deeper impulse and intuition to arise? In the words of Eugene Peterson, without stories we end up with stereotypes, a flat earth and cardboard figures that have no texture or depth, no interior.

Are deep, philosophical thinkers:

This pretty much epitomises me. I’ve never been one for small talk or meaningless chit chat. I find deep, meaningful conversations to be thoughtful, refreshing and energising. I love being given the opportunity to consider things others might not. I’m a fan of the big existential questions. Some find them to be depressing, torturous or pointless but I like making sense of things and considering my place in the world. There’s something empowering about asking why you’re here, what your purpose is and how you can share your gift with the world.

We need to talk more freely about our dreams, aspirations and the legacies we hope to eventually leave. Life is a short, sweet holiday from existence, a wise somebody once said. We can grumble and moan and complain as much as we like but we’ll only take this human form once. Philosophy should be a guiding principle for your everyday, a humble dictator of your reality. The Daily Stoic newsletter is a great resource for those who wish to explore the discipline.

Avoids petty drama and focuses on what’s important:

Yes! This side of me has a shown a lot this year. I never cause fights and don’t tend to react negatively unless absolutely necessary. I won’t add fuel to fire or participate in conflict but I always stand up for myself. I just keep it in perspective, really. I value my relationships and peace of mind too much to let them be threatened by reckless negativity.

I’m often seen as the mediator or the middle man for friends when disagreements arise. This has taught me about my capacity for empathy and understanding. There’s something to be said for seeing both sides without necessarily taking either. Remaining neutral and not leaking your energy constantly is a power position.

Are good at concealing their emotions:

I don’t like to bottle up how I feel or suppress my emotions as this is toxic to overall health and keeps those who care about your wellbeing at a distant arms length. However, I do value my privacy and feel that being too free with what’s on my mind causes scattered energy and leaves the door open for undue criticism. For the most part though, I prioritise authenticity and want to make it known that I’m as human as anybody else.

I refuse to be idolised or put on a pedestal and don’t like to contribute to illusory beliefs of my leading an entirely carefree life. When it comes to significant relationships, I like to give people the bigger broader picture and wear my heart on my sleeve. This is the only way to be known in my entirely and wholly loved despite my shortcomings and inabilities.

Favours letting go of grudges:

Most definitely! I tend to lean towards forgiveness but I don’t forget. It’s the lesson learnt aspect that sticks with me. When you’ve been shown truth and light, why would you willingly remain in the dark? If you hold a particular grudge and can’t seem to let go, it’s important to return to your understanding of the situation. Mull over the circumstance mindfully and do your best to weed out an overarching message.

Take heed and trust your intuition, your gut feelings. They are guardian angels. Let recurring thoughts serve as your ongoing warning against people or circumstances that have a regular bad turnout or seem off. By all means, let go of anger and emotions that cloud your thinking and wear down your resolve. You need not carry the weight of another’s actions. Just take the necessary precautions to protect your peace and being.

Are always there for loved ones:

Absolutely! If I care about you in any capacity, you can count on me being there as a friendly face, listening ear and helping hand. Cheesy as that sounds, I give love and respect where and when it is given to me. I don’t believe that being related by blood is reason enough to automatically extend these virtues. They say that friends are your chosen family but you can never anticipate who you’ll be related to.

Family are very much predetermined. That’s even more reason to act in ways that make you deserving of the good others have to offer. I haven’t always prioritised my significant relationships as I’m not the biggest people person and find more solace in my own company. However, I’m learning to lean more on my loved ones and be there when it counts. Why miss out on the family barbeques or the school plays when these smaller moments make up portions of life just as much?

Are adventurous and love to experience new things:

Adventure is the spice of life and the fastest way to change perspective and reignite a spark. As a wise somebody once said, a job fills your pocket and your wallet but daring adventures fill your soul. I am dared on by wanderlust and very much in seeking of my destiny. I believe it will take me to the far corners of the globe as much as it will my sleepy little town here in the Blue Mountains. Discovery is in my backyard too. If we were meant to stay in one place, we’d have roots, not feet.

It’s in our nature to roam free and wild, spurred on by the unknown. I want to have stories to tell, not things to show. I want to amass experience, not material. Adventure is also an attitude we must apply to the challenges in life. Why not treat everyday as if it has something grand to offer? The danger of adventure is truly worth a thousand days of ease and comfort. We should travel not to escape life but so life fails to escape us. I want to go where there is no path and leave a trail, to reach out with wide eyes and a fearless spirit for a newer, richer experience.