You don’t need to be ashamed if a new idea or belief or discovery doesn’t quite fit you yet. Give yourself permission to change into it. Why do we believe that it’s shameful to be wrong about something? When did we become afraid of admitting that there’s a better way of doing things than what we’ve been doing? Why have we condemned epiphany, revelation, evolution? You never arrive at Truth and that’s why Jesus said that he was the only way, truth and life.
Truth is lived into, on the way, as you go, day by day, never arriving, always experiencing more truth, greater understanding, new revelations, turning left some days, right the other days, letting go and moving on. This how it works and this is how it’s always been. There is nothing shameful about changing your ways. Nothing. Not at all. Ever. You are allowed to CHANGE your mind and ways and heart. No shame attached. It is your right and work to adapt and transform and become. You don’t ever grow up at all. You just grow and keep on growing. There’s nothing shameful about surrendering to the way grace works.
The Apostle Paul wrote to his friends and said: “Whenever, though, they turn to face God as Moses did, God removes the veil and there they are—face-to-face! They suddenly recognize that God is a living, personal presence, not a piece of chiselled stone. And when God is personally present, a living Spirit, that old, constricting legislation is recognized as obsolete. We’re free of it! All of us! Nothing between us and God, our faces shining with the brightness of his face. And so we are transfigured much like the Messiah, our lives gradually becoming brighter and more beautiful as God enters our lives and we become like him.” Did you see that? CS Lewis said: “God is not a static thing-not even a person- but a dynamic, pulsating activity, a life, almost a kind of drama. Almost, if you will not think me irreverent, a kind of dance.”
You are free from staying the same. You are free from being a static version of yourself, stiff and unmoving. You are free to change and become, to shed your skin that’s become too tight for you and the world around you, to grow and morph and bloom and be. Perhaps the problem is that we inherently believe that once we become adults or Christians, or whatever we think the pinnacle of wisdom and maturity is, that to change from then on, is shameful. But I think the opposite: staying in a ‘system of truth’ that is no longer working for your highest good, and therefore the highest good of those we share the world with- we are connected, we are one- is what is truly a shame.
CS Lewis also said: “Critics who treat ‘adult’ as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown-up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence, they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown-up.”
Words of health and healing from Liz Melani, The Practice Co- This weekly series is called Give Yourself Permission To Change. Further up top is Morgan Harper Nichols weekly series Natural Rhythms of Grace.
Mindful Prompt: You are free from staying the same. You are free from being a static version of yourself, stiff and unmoving. You are free to change and become, to shed your skin that’s become too tight for you and the world around you, to grow and morph and bloom and be.