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First Light, My Muse: Your Monday Encouragement (22/9/21)

What’s inside the September bellabox?

Life is meant to be lived. You have to chase the things that ignite you, do the things that bring you insurmountable joy. You have to surround yourself with the people who bring you back home to yourself, who understand your essence. The people who respect and embrace you in ways that reassure you of just how loved, worthy, held and wanted you are. You have to do the work to heal yourself, even when it hurts. Perhaps especially so at this time. Why continue to approach your life within the boundaries of what is heavy within you?

When is the last time you reflected on the qualities your ideal romantic partner would possess or the traits that stand out to you most in the person you’re currently seeing? Having recently begun online dating for the first time, these are questions I’m asking myself.

There is such a novelty about receiving little surprises in the post. I’m definitely a big kid at heart- can’t help but get excited looking through and seeing what I’ve received. I remember ordering subscription boxes full of Japanese candies, plushies and kawaii stationery back in primary school.

The thing about healing is that it hurts, plain and simple. Sometimes even more than the original wound. Most people think healing is a matter of time. That there is a timeline in which the pain will cease and become minuscule or disappear completely. Others think you just shouldn’t bring it up, that giving it time, energy or thought only magnifies it. While that is partially true, we as people need to process, need to understand, need to know how we’ll move forward. What’s truly required is an active confrontation with yourself to get where you want to be.

Here’s how to let go when you really want to hold on tight: First, remember that it’s okay to outgrow people, places and things. In fact, it’s inevitable. It’s okay for them to outgrow you too. We are on the same journey here but taking distinctly different paths. Allow yourself to really grieve the loss of what you’re letting go of. You can’t heal when you don’t let yourself feel. Be kind to your anger.

When trying to rediscover your identity, ask the following questions of yourself:

We are on the same frequency energetically as flowers, animals, the ocean, sky and nature itself. All things we appreciate without the expectation of them changing. Sometimes we can lose touch and perceive ourselves differently, forgetting the impact we are capable of having on our life and the people in our circles.

Noticing an increase in feelings of anxiety or overthinking lately? Here’s a strategy to tackle worry and remain in the driver’s seat of your life. Don’t let yourself be ruled by debilitating, demanding thoughts that drain you of mental capacity and a clear head. I recently learnt about tactic called the worry tree. You begin by acknowledging your worry. Chances are you’ve sensed its presence and are either entertaining the thought, numbing it or pushing it away with distractions or coping mechanisms. Just make space for it to exist. Simple.

I’m not interested in the kind of growth that asks me to overcome everything I’ve ever experienced in order for it to be valid. I’m interested in the kind of growth that honours all iterations and versions of me, that holds complexity and makes space for detours, u-turns and unexpected paths along the way.

Credit to @daisyscorner__ for a picture she shared in her recent post. A page from a book that really resonated. These words are so good friends! All about intentionality and being present in this very moment.

Short and sweet street art reminders today! ☺️

Wondering how to make yourself feel better? Talk to yourself as you would..

Left Brain Versus Right Brain quote- how thoughtful is this? 🧐

You relax on a plane even though you don’t know the pilot. You relax on a ship even though you don’t know the captain. You relax on the bus or train even though you don’t know the driver. That begs the question.. why not relax as your life begins to unfold?

Beautiful, encouragement filled words from Ralph Waldo Emerson- Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. He is rich who owns the day and no one owns the day who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety. Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in. Forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely with too high a spirit to be cumbered with old nonsense. This new day is too dear with its hopes and invitations to waste a moment on the yesterdays.

If you’re wondering what you should do with your life, it’s like you’re in that limbo state between realising you don’t want what you once did and giving yourself permission to want what you want now.